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Revealing Values
February 3, 2017

Revealing Values
At work, we always emphasized on creating values for our clients. We find ways to help the clients effectively improve their processes and controls. In the long run, the recommendations will contribute to their success. This inspired me to think about what my values are and how I am shaped by them. During the process, I identified some things that don’t really add value to my life. I pretty much asked myself, “why am I doing this?“. In short, I’m going to try to weave out these bad qualities to become a slightly better person over the next few seasons.

It took me this long to realize that I usually have around 3 hours to myself when I come home during the workweek. That’s not much and I should be doing something that I value. Of course, everyone is different and values different things. That’s okay and we should respect each other for it (assuming it’s not harmful). If someone finds value in laying down after work to destress, good on them! What’s great about life is the opportunity of seeing uniqueness.

Here are some things that add value to my life:

  • Seizing opportunities because I want to, not because someone else wants me to.
  • Being able to earn my own goods and not asking others to buy stuff for me.
  • Challenging myself to surpass expectations and previous achievements.
  • Positive energy and good vibes. Negativity bogs me down big time.
  • Knowing when to say yes or no during appropriate circumstances.
  • Interacting people who strive for success.
  • Being my own person.
  • Continuous learning.
  • Practicing gratitude.
  • The little things.

If you were to ask me what my values were 5 or 10 years ago, I would give a completely different answer. I am sure my values will change as I get older and my living condition changes. I haven’t really dive into my core principles yet but that’s something to do in the near future.

8 Responses

  1. Tara ☆ February 4, 2017 at 2:11 am

    Nancy, let me just say you’re much more mature than I was at your age, and I respect you so much for your level-headed mature rationality. I wished I had your sense back then, but dwelling in the past is pretty counter-productive, so the best thing to do is to move forward. 😀

    Your values are really excellent. I love that a lot of them are ones self-improvement ones. You’re done with your degree, but you are constantly finding new things to learn and new ways to challenge yourself. Your work ethics are an asset to anybody you work for. You know what you want and you go for your goals. Don’t ever stop. Keep doing things at your best! <3

    There is something satisfying about buying things with your own money. When I was younger, I'd ask my dad to buy me books, games, and movies. Now, though, I buy them on my own, and I feel good about it. Not only that, but I have full control of what I want to buy. It's good to limit myself and buy the things I really want, especially as little rewards to myself ^^

    Thank you for writing this post. I appreciate you sharing more about yourself in a deeper way!

  2. Becca ☆ February 4, 2017 at 4:57 pm

    It’s so good to write out what you value, and I think that it’s good that your values change over time – they should! As you grow and change as a person, so should the things that you value and cherish.

    You can tell that bettering yourself is important to you – whether that’s to interacting with other people to the things that you accomplish, and I admire that! I always strive to be a better person than I was the day before, especially in how I treat others.

  3. Chynna ☆ February 5, 2017 at 3:34 am

    This is actually a really good process. I love your values list, as well, because these are actually some of the values I want to add to my life, as well. I’m currently striving to achieve them as we speak. Feels great!

    I watched a video yesterday and the girl mentioned deductive and reductive reasoning. A reductive reasoner will say “I am poor and unhappy” and look back as to why: their dad didn’t love them, their mum was wasn’t there for them, blah blah. A deductive reasoner will say “I am poor and unhappy” and find ways to get out of the situation: go to a better school, get new friends, read 10 minutes a day. This post just reminded me of that – and I definitely think you’re a deductive reasoner!

    You go, girl 😀 <3

  4. Pauline ☆ February 6, 2017 at 1:30 pm

    I loved reading this Nancy! It’s such a good process and in the long run is set to make you a happier, better, healthier person! I recently started thinking a similar way at the end of last year when I watched the minimalism documentary on Netflix. It really opened my eyes to what I valued most in my life. This not only included items but people and time. I started applying things I learnt from that documentary and books and their podcasts to my own life and definitely found myself loving what I was doing with the valuable time I had!

    “Being able to earn my own goods and not asking others to buy stuff for me.” 👌🏻 YES This is so important to me personally too, I feel happier when I get stuff myself rather than waiting for it from someone else.

    Thank you for sharing <3

  5. Georgie ☆ February 6, 2017 at 4:28 pm

    I think we all have values in life but I have never really thought about mine. I used to have that manifesto on my website but it was mostly about my beliefs and how I choose to be as a person. And it’s not so much that those have changed, but it is good to revisit values from time to time.

    I probably get more time each day during the week compared to you (you work late hours omg!) but having worked late in previous jobs, I realise the importance of having time for myself. I like going out every now and then for entertainment, whether it be a concert or just going out to a community event on the weekend.

    I put aside a lot of time for Nick 😄 At the same time, we enjoy each other’s company even when doing our own work and hobbies.

    Positive vibes are definitely important for me. If I don’t get enough of that in a day, I feel pretty drained. If something can make me smile I am happy.

    I 100% agree with challenging yourself – stepping out of your comfort zone is important and it can help you grow, experience more, and be a better person. 😄

    Keep being awesome, Nancy! ❤️

  6. Bhairavee ☆ February 6, 2017 at 8:26 pm

    Value #1 is my #1 too.
    It’s an absolute value for me. I loved the whole post, Nancy.
    It is important to know what one values and to work towaqrds maintaining them!

  7. Elisa ☆ February 8, 2017 at 9:40 am

    Yay to a more conscious lifestyle 🙂

    I like how the list consists of things that may sound trivial to some but are actually something that you really pay attention to! I love it when people took notice of the little things that can go unnoticed…well, your list isn’t necessarily a list of trivial things since but you get what i mean. Not a lot of people actually take the time to sit down and list down these things, you know.

    I also like how positive you are as a person. You’re really cool, you know? Very active, very determined and always up there for challenges and new experiences. Ye is a very brave soul, my friend and i think those traits are the ones that bring you to success. I personally think you are quite successful already and i quite envy your life achievements! Haha. I wish i can always say that i’m all about positivity but the truth is, i’m not. I’m a realist, a skeptic, a cynic and it’s hard for me to channel positive energy. I think if i were to think hard enough, i do have a few core principles i set my life on but since i’m lazy right now, i don’t feel like digging my memory bunker haha

  8. Rezina ☆ February 10, 2017 at 1:10 pm

    Wow, what a great values list!

    I’m always impressed by your professionalism and how it translates in your posts. I think it’s also more impressive because it got me to think about my own values and I found that thinking up a substantial list was actually really hard! So I think it’s pretty cool that you’re thinking of your own and how you’re shaped by them and also how we can use these values to become better people 😀

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